Second Labors: What You Need to Know About Birthing Again
Couple expecting their second baby in Los Angeles, CA
BY: REBECCA BELENKY, BIRTH AND POSTPARTUM DOULA OF LOS ANGELES BIRTH
What You Need To Know About Your Second Birth
You are pregnant again. Congratulations! And despite what people may tell you, preparing for another birth is not always simpler just because you have done this before.
Maybe you already feel very pregnant this time around, but you still have weeks to go. Maybe you feel more grounded in some ways, but also more aware of how unpredictable birth can be.
The general advice second-time parents often receive, things like ‘you’ve done this before, you’ll be fine,’ can feel surprisingly hollow. Of course, you know you have done this before. But this pregnancy already feels different because it is.
No one knows exactly how your next labor will unfold. There may be echoes of your previous birth, but this baby is their own person, and you are not the same version of yourself either. Birth is dynamic like that.
But this post is for you because you deserve more nuanced advice than “don’t wait too long, or you will have a baby in the car,” or “Don’t worry about everything so much, that baby is going to fly out.” Both of which can feel diminishing and overly simplistic.
There are two very common patterns of labor, and they feel as confusing as they are different.
Prodromal labor: repeated start-stop contractions and the feeling of “Is this baby ever coming?”
Precipitous labor: very fast progression and the whiplash feeling of “Am I actually in labor?” followed by someone asking, “Would you like to touch the baby’s head?”
Read on to learn more about: how each pattern can feel & practical planning tips like: childcare, timing, your circle of support
Why Second (or third or fourth) Pregnancies Can Feel So Different
The most obvious reason is that you don’t have as much time to yourself for preparation and physical and emotional check-ins because you are doing the very time-intensive work of caring for your other child(ren). I was just talking with a second-time mom client about this phenomenon. She was judging her lack of physical preparation for birth, and now she just feels like she is flying by the seat of her pants. The first time around, she read books, listened to podcasts, and did A LOT of prenatal yoga.
This time around, she feels guilty about how rare it is to muse on and contemplate this baby growing inside her. She is physically taxed and has A LOT more on her plate.
Honestly, in my experience, I think about this as a very normal shift. Subsequent pregnancies have the benefit of your experience, so you literally don’t need to read those books—you have done the on-the-job training of actual parenting, and knowledge from books may not be necessary. This is a time when you can rely on your self-knowledge and find a place to walk this path with confidence.
I would allow yourself to have a different experience and avoid the temptation to compare if it makes you feel stressed or inadequate. Then look for ways you can simplify and ground yourself in your present reality.
What is Really Going on in Your Pregnant Body Before Birth?
The body is preparing to open and allow the baby to come down and out. However, this preparation process is usually not linear, and if you are expecting clarity, you will most likely get frustrated!
One aspect of birth that can be challenging is that much of the change happens on the inside, and we don’t get the kind of feedback we might like about when or how labor might unfold. This is true no matter what number, baby, this is. Due dates and when your baby comes are just not predictable!
The hormones Oxytocin and Prostaglandin are responsible for the changes in the thinning and changing cervix, and the flexing of the uterus, and ultimately, uterine contractions that will bring your baby into your arms.
Interesting fact: Every time a person is in labor, their uterus creates more hormone receptors. So, with each pregnancy, the uterus becomes more sensitive to the hormones of labor floating around in your bloodstream.
I think of it as the uterus saying,
"Oh, yeah—we know what that hormone is all about. I remember how this goes."
But that also means the uterus contracts more often when the hormones are flowing. Nighttime is when humans usually make more oxytocin.
This kind of uterine activity can get labeled as “Prodromal Labor,” which can make some people feel confused or frustrated, but it might just be clear signals from your uterus that it knows what to do when the baby and your body are ready for THE BIG DAY. But WHEN that will be is still TBD.
Prodromal Labor (“Is This Baby Ever Going to Come?”)
What is Prodromal Labor?
Contractions that are real and can be painful… but don’t really build and increase in intensity.
Often start and stop (sometimes for days, weeks)
Nighttime is a very common time for these contractions.
These labels can be helpful and also infuriating. The only way to REALLY know if it is not prodromal labor is to wait and see what happens next—and then you get to look back on what unfolds and affirm your narrative.
Many years of experience have taught me that we can only make sense of the labor timeline after the fact. (Although searching for a narrative in the moment to make it make sense is very tempting!)
What It Can Feel Like in Prodromal Labor
Hope → disappointment loop
Exhaustion, irritability, tears
“I can’t keep doing this.” “Am I overreacting?” “Am I missing real labor?”
Finding it impossible to relax and wait, on the precipice of something big (which you are! This is SO NORMAL, you are not crazy)
Feeling foolish because you have been communicating with your childcare people a lot, but you are not even in labor.
Common Signs & Clues that you may be experiencing this pattern
Contractions come on strong, then fade.
Often more pronounced at night.
May calm down with rest/hydration/shower.
You felt a bunch of contractions or labor sensations the night before, and you woke up the next morning still pregnant.
Prodromal Labor vs. Early Labor
The best way to make the distinction is how much time has passed- or how long has this been going on?
Early labor: generally trends forward (even if slowly)
Prodromal: tends to cycle and reset; no strong throughline. Many days like this.
Both labels require the passage of time to decipher. It may be impossible to know in the moment. Does the label matter right now anyway?
What is “False Labor”?
Oh my god, can we make another label for this, please? This stupid label implies that the person's feelings are not true. You are the pregnant one. I fully trust and believe in your ability to report your own sensations.
Sometimes Braxton Hicks contractions, “false labor contractions”, and prodromal contractions are used interchangeably in the OB/GYN world. They may be the same thing going on in the uterus (who really knows?), but the label that gets used probably depends on which week of pregnancy you are, whether or not your provider believes you are a reliable reporter, and how you describe the sensations to others.
In the end, the label is less important than what you do to get through this challenging pattern.
What helps if you think you are having “Prodromal Labor”
Take it as a cue to prioritize rest. Your baby could come in the next day, or the labor might be days or weeks away. Take this time to nap and sleep at night in preparation for labor and for the postpartum period.
Hydration + electrolytes: Can you do more to nourish yourself? Take this as a message from your body, reminding you to remember YOURSELF and all the work it's doing to support this new life inside you.
Warm bath/shower, heat pack, gentle movement. Sometimes water or movement can calm these contractions long enough to fall asleep and get a good night's rest.
If these sensations occur during the day, you could try positions that support ideal fetal positioning (most common: hands-and-knees, forward-leaning positions, side-lying release, Miles Circuit). Sometimes contractions are the uterus’s way of trying to move the baby into an ideal position for birth.
Emotional regulation: dim lights, calming playlist, meditation track, reduce “clock-watching.”
Develop some mantras that can help ground you and rise above unhelpful mental chatter.
Check your go-bag, car seat, and baby stuff, and test out your childcare plans. If all of these details are set, you can just wait and practice the surrender that the end of pregnancy so often asks from us.
Precipitous Labor (“Would You Like to Touch Your Baby’s Head?”)
What is Precipitous Labor?
Precipitous Labor is when labor comes on fast and furious. The textbook definition is a birth that happens within 3 hours of regular contractions beginning.
Precipitous labor can happen with the first labor, too, but it is not as common. (If you had a precipitous labor with your first, there is a very good chance you will have another fast birth.)
What It Can Feel Like
Contractions start suddenly and get intense quickly.
Many feel disoriented and doubt their ability to trust what they are feeling.
It is common to seek more “proof” that labor is truly happening.
It could be described as being on a roller coaster, and there is no getting off of it.
Signs That Labor Is Moving FAST
Intense contractions that feel very powerful. It is less about the clock and more about the surge's power.
Hard to speak during contractions.
Pronounced shifts in the baby's position- pressure getting low and maybe even in the rectum.
Shaking, nausea/vomiting, sudden vocalization, spontaneous pushing urge (obviously the baby is coming if that happens)
As quickly as you realize it's really happening, someone on your birth team says, “Would you like to touch your baby’s head?”
Why Precipitous Labor Can Feel Scary
Many people say that they wish for a fast birth. But, in the moment, it's very normal for someone to feel scared and out of control. A person might question:
Will your midwife make it to you? Or will you make it to your birthplace?
Will your childcare arrive in time to be with the kid(s)?
If you are planning on epidural pain relief, you may not arrive at the hospital with enough time to receive one before the baby arrives.
What if the baby is born in the car before arriving at the birthplace?
All of these thoughts are valid and real. Take some time to consider what might help you feel supported through a rapid labor. The speed of labor is an unknown that we cannot control, but what would feel supportive if your labor were to take that pace?
I recommend hiring a birth doula with extensive experience to support parents giving birth again. This can help minimize the anxiety of “when to go to the hospital” and the fear that you might be alone through most of labor or birth. Doulas focus on you, so your partner can calmly care for the older kid(s).
Somewhere along the way, you will be surprised.
In all my years as a doula, when I sit with my clients at our postpartum visits, they express some level of “surprise” at how the birth unfolded. Maybe it was that the water broke at the start of contractions, or maybe that it did not break until the end. Some are surprised by how out of nowhere it all was; others by how drawn-out and confusing the labor was.
In there is an undertone of “I should have known.”
I think baked into some of this is the expectation that we should be able to anticipate or predict what it will be like. But labor does not work that way.
How to Mentally Prepare for the spectrum of labor
Instead of making one plan and crossing your fingers that it all magically works out. Create a plan with built-in pivots. These 2 patterns of labor are good examples of the wide spectrum that labor can
Drawn-out start and stop contractions (rest + conserve energy)
Fast-labor plan (early calls + childcare trigger points)
Planning Tips for Second-Time Parents
Create Multiple Child-care Plans
Talk through whether your childcare helpers are committed to being available at any time, day or night?
Discuss what kind of heads up they would prefer, do they like texts, or phone calls?
Ask them if there are any conflicts in the coming weeks that would prevent them from dropping everything and coming to your house. Write it all down on a calendar.
Create a care plan for your kid(s) on bedtimes and daily routines that would help them step in on short notice.
Ideally, you have a web of support- friends, a neighbor, a family member, a nanny, and, depending on what scenario arises, you are well-covered.
Examples of Childcare Trigger Plans
“If contractions are X minutes apart for Y time, we call the sitter.”
“If I can’t talk through contractions, toddler goes to backup plan.”
“If I feel rectal pressure, we leave immediately, and the toddler comes with us to the birthplace. Childcare can come there for the swap.”
Consider Your Circle of Support
Second births can be emotionally intense in a different way, and I would argue that families need more support to allow each family member the chance to adjust and thrive in the new reality. Just because you have given birth before does not mean you shouldn’t give your family the advantage of thoughtful and skilled birth support.
If you are feeling nervous about your next birth, you don’t have to do it alone. A doula can be a helpful guide through this unique birth journey. Hiring an experienced birth doula will help you assess labor patterns, offer calm and steady support through it all, and help advocate for your wishes and desires in birth.
Final Thoughts
You have so much wisdom and lived experience from your previous labors and births. But keep yourself open to the possibility that your next labor may not mirror the first; there is a wide range of what is normal, and two common “surprise” patterns are prodromal and precipitous labor. Keep your expectations open to this new and unique birth.
If you’re in Los Angeles and want personalized doula care for your next birth, schedule a consultation with me. I would love to be part of your circle of support during pregnancy and the postpartum period.
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About Rebecca Belenky
Rebecca Belenky is a Los Angeles–based birth and postpartum doula, childbirth educator, and lactation educator who has been supporting families since 2014. Through her practice, Los Angeles Birth, she offers emotionally intelligent, trauma-informed care that helps parents to feel informed, grounded, and confident throughout pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum journey.
